Thursday, June 23, 2016

the wind longs to play in your (pit) hair

A few months back I took up an "experiment" and I stopped shaving. The biggest reason was because I was starting to become downright curious to see what my body looked like in its natural state. It bothered me a little that I didn't know.  As someone who has shaved multiple times a week since I was about fourteen, it was a little hard for me to not reach for my razor every time I was in the shower, but now that I'm months in, I'm not sure if I'll ever go back!

It really doesn't make sense to me that society's reaction to women with armpit hair (or pubic hair!) is "gross," or "unhygienic," and yet men with pit hair is completely the norm. Having armpit hair didn't suddenly make me a dirty person. We shouldn't make sudden judgments on someone's appearance simply because we are startled and shocked by it.
Shaving is a habit that women are conditioned to uphold from an early age. There is nowhere on tv, in magazines, or advertisements that shows a woman with hairy pits or legs (even the porn industry has us all about going bare "down there"), so it's easy to see how young teen girls feel like they need to remove that hair if they want to be "normal." (Even though "normal" would seem to me to be the state your body is normally...) Women with hairy legs and armpits are seen as controversial - as if a woman in her natural state is something almost taboo in our culture. It is about time that this changed, so my words and photos are here to help spread the message that IT IS OK NOT TO SHAVE. You don't need to be hairless to be feminine, beautiful, sexy, or powerful.

I'm not writing the post to say that I think all women should stop shaving and embrace their hairiness. I think that if you want to shave you should! I completely understand some people would never want to have have hair on their legs, arms, lady bits, ect., and that is a personal choice, just like choosing not to remove your hair is a personal choice. I want to live in a world where my daughter (if I ever have one) can feel comfortable in her own skin, and not feel forced to look a certain way by the media, advertising companies, and the people around her.

Please, let us all make an effort to embrace individuality, to accept bodies in all degrees of size, color, and hairiness, and to let people do, and not do, to their bodies what they will without judgement. We are all different and unique.


Anna said...

I seriously loved reading this! But I tend to shave also for hygiene purposes. I think that deodorant might not be as effective/ the hairs capture the sweaty smell? Did you make any experiences on that?

Laura Jones said...

i love this post and especially that first photo of you! and i wish everyone felt this way and everyone felt as if they can do whatever they want regards their bodies - and did so. i often stop shaving from mere laziness, continue not shaving from both laziness and i'm-doing-this-as-a-feminist-act-against-western-beauty-standards, but i always start shaving after some time. maybe someday i won't, though! xx

Claire said...

Yes to body positivity! I stopped shaving my legs sometime in college, but it somehow seemed like a bigger deal when I stopped shaving my pits last November. And that pit hair is so fuzzy and soft! I shaved them to go to the beach last weekend. It was such a wonderful time that I *almost* forgot how much they chafed. So long, razor.
Thanks for being so open and talking about this on your blog. The taboo against unshaven women is unhealthy and contributes to the larger culture of body shaming (dysfunctional!). It's so important to be inclusive of a wider range of body images.
In response to Anna's comment: I shower about every other day, and I haven't had a problem with smell. At first I was a little self-conscious and used to ask friends if they smelled anything, but no one did.

Jeff said...

From a guy's perspective, I don't see what all the fuss is about, if nature intended women to be hair free then it wouldn't grow! Society is too shallow and Judge's way too quickly. Embrace your body hair, I won't be offended or judgemental.Anna, men have hairy armpits and deodorant works fine for us as long as we wash our pits regularly 😃

Anonymous said...

I'm curious, why would you think that shaving is more hygienic? Do you consider men (who generally have body hair) to be unhygienic? Or the hair on your head, is that unhygienic? I'd hazard a guess that at the root of it, you don't think that of hair in general. Just body hair, on women. We're taught from a very young age that hairlessness on women is "normal", but biologically speaking it's quite the opposite.

As the OP said, it's all about personal choice. The stigma that needs to be broken is the idea that there's a right and wrong, or clean and unclean, way to be a woman.

Personally, I find keeping hair under my arms to be much more comfortable. The chafing that comes with shaving is just not worth it! And hair does not alter, much less increase, body odor.

Freya said...

I love this post, I hate that the main argument against body hair is "it's dirty/unhygienic" as it's just trying to shame women into doing what society finds more aesthetically pleasing. If there was anything wrong with body hair then we wouldn't of evolved with it, and it really is so liberating to ditch the razor. Love your photos too ♥

And in response to the above: deodorant works on mens hairy pits just fine, so why would it not work on womens?

Sarah Albertson said...

This is awesome! I definitely think it needs to become normal for women to choose not to shave. And what you said about not knowing what you looked like in your natural state, I've never thought about that before but it's a great point! I don't know if I have the confidence to go un-shaved yet, but maybe one day I will :)

Megan Hammond said...

I LOVE THIS!! I don't mind shaving, I like smooth legs. But my skin isn't such a fan, so like it or not I've had to give it up for the most part... I strike a balance, and if my skin is good I can shave about once a month and enjoy it while it lasts! :)

Anna said...

I so think men's deodorant is stronger though. Plus I believe she actually might be using more natural based deodorant in comparison to ones with aluminium in them.

Anonymous said...

Bravo for You. For that, You goin on your own path! -Greetings from Poland! _Włóczykij.

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